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How To Relief Anxiety Through Self-Love

If you read my earlier blog post about how to relieve anxiety through "mindful breathing" as a way to distance yourself from your thoughts, maybe you’re thinking “I already know that taking a mindful breath or 2 helps distract me.”

It’s not rocket-science, right?

Correct, but owning your anxiety is daily work. And taking a deep breath or 2 is just the beginning.

Firstly, you can strengthen your ability to cultivate distance between anxious thoughts and the calm, powerful REAL you by joining a 21-day programme utilizing a bunch of mindfulness exercises to do just that.

Secondly, you can start addressing the root cause of your anxiety.

And the root cause of ANY anxiety, in fact the root cause of ALL of anyone’s issues when you peel the onion back far enough, is a lack of SELF-LOVE.

Once you’ve peeled an issue bare, a lack of self-worth is what you’ll find:

  • You internally criticize or put yourself down – “I’m not good enough”
  • You mistreat your body with poor food, alcohol or drugs
  • You don’t set boundaries, and people take advantage of you (consciously or otherwise)
  • You attract partners, romantic or commercial, that don’t value you

Working on this is the real work that needs to be done. This is the needle-mover.

Re-programming your subconscious to LOVE YOURSELF is what is going to starve your anxiety of its fuel at the source.


And with this in mind, let me introduce you to Bonus Tool #2 – some people may find this challenging, or uncomfortable, but I would urge you to try it.

I can’t take credit for this exercise, it’s borrowed directly from a wonderful woman called Louise Hay and her book “You Can Heal Your Life”. It is FULL of helpful exercises, positive re-framing, affirmations and myriad pearls of wisdom – it’s my go-to book if I need a dose of the good vibes! Her prescriptions are simple yet stunningly effective – in her own words “a flow of positive ideas designed to change consciousness.”

So, Bonus Tool #2 is borrowing one of her exercises - find some time to yourself, and go look yourself in the mirror...

  • Look into your own eyes, make your eyes smile, and whilst gently holding your own gaze, repeat the affirmation out loud “I love myself and approve of myself, I love myself and approve of myself”
  • Smile compassionately as you do so
  • And repeat this at least 10 times, preferably 50 times

It’s definitely going to feel weird, at least the first time, but what we’re doing is re-programming our subconscious.

I would encourage you to do this at other times throughout today, especially at times when you might catch your mind putting yourself down, or are experiencing negative rumination.

It’s a distracting mantra that you can use to both quiet and re-program the mind in those instances. And it doesn’t always have to be in front of a mirror – you can do it whilst driving your car, or walking down the street – and it doesn’t have to be out loud – just repeat it in your head, over and over again.

After a while, you won’t even realise what words you’re saying to yourself, they’ll just be sounds – but your subconscious will be taking them in, digesting them, reprogramming your mind without you even really appreciating it.

You should aim to be repeating this mantra to yourself AT LEAST 100 times today, if not far more...

Let me know how you get on!

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